My husband gave his life to Christ in the process of seeking a relationship with me, a few years later we got married. In the course of the marriage he beat me repeatedly from which I sustained multiple injuries, he also was verbally abusive and chose not to work or provide for us for a good part of the marriage, he was always in one quarrel or the other with members of my family and at some point banned me from speaking to some of my relatives; he stopped me or the children from going to church, my life became… Read more »
Dear Anonymous, Thanks for being open about your experience and for sending in this question. We want you to know that God has a solution for every challenge you may be going through as a believer. Jesus came for the purpose of healing the brokenhearted, delivering captives, and liberating those who are bruised. That perfectly describes the condition of someone who is being abused in their marriage. Jesus came to rescue people from abusive relationships! Nowhere in the Word is there a place where God applauds or supports abuse. In fact, abuse is inherently opposite to God’s nature. If believers… Read more »
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From the debut episode of The MoThaRs Collection in April 2009 to the July episode(Fireproof movie), I have been tremendously blessed by every single episode!In May’s edition, i went home with several stuff and my favorite mantra since then has been “GRACE IS AVAILABLE”. Believe me, just saying this alone from my heart in the middle of a choking situation, gives me fresh energy & vigor. This was a revelation by Pastor Nkechi Ene as she taught us that evening. Sometimes our jobs as mothers, wives, and career women can be so overwhelming but we should always remember that “God’s… Read more »
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I come across a lot of believers who have children when they are not ready, and shy away from contraception. Is contraception contrary to the word of God? If not what forms of contraception can believers use.
Contraception as a form of family planning within the marriage relationship is not wrong. It enables you to plan before bringing babies into this world. The Bible admonishes us in Luke 14:28-30 to count the cost before beginning any project – even the project of having babies. We advise that a couple seeks medical counsel before choosing a method of family planning. They need to also find out if the method is preventive or if abortive. Abortive methods should not be acceptable to Bible believing Christians. Ask questions about the long-term effect of the preventive ones. If the first one… Read more »
Being a relatively new wife, I have had some very real challenges balancing the new responsibilities of managing a home and husband alongside a full-time career. Even so, I have been so blessed by the insights shared in MoThARs collection meetings by all the speakers. I also really appreciate the level of forthrightness shown by those who share experiences and ask questions – you babes don’t know how much you have blessed me – Thanks! I am learning to lean on God’s grace and have a ‘can do’ attitude – instead of feeling overwhelmed by it all. I am gradually… Read more »
Itâ€™s been awesome all the way. Each programme so far leaves me lighter than I came in, fulfilling the words of Jesus from Matt 11:28. Am in his rest where grace is available for me. For over 7 months I tried very hard to handle issues that required my attention (family, studies, Job, ministry â€¦â€¦ the list seemed endless) not until â€œThe Balancing Actâ€ in MoTHaRs collection appeared on the scene. What a great difference that has made to my entire Life! Canâ€™t help but wonder how far I could have gone without that message. GOD IS GOOD. Thank you… Read more »
Mothers collection has been a blessing to me. Not only do i now know that everything is possible-having career, managing the home, being a perfect wife and a mother……I know that relying on God will make it a whole lot easier, enjoyable and rewarding. What we learn from these meetings cannot be gotten anywhere else!!! Real, practical, honest, reliable, centered on God's word…..It is the “Ohms Law” for every married woman! Being a MothaR in TCC is a real blessing… God bless you Pastors!
I have really been blessed by these meetings and I thank God for our Pastors for setting this up. I have learnt a lot from these meetings and look forward to the end of the month for a new session.
Wao!! i have been so much blessed by every episode of the MoThaRs collection. The ‘Balancing Act’ simply teaches me that the experience is common to ‘us’ all and it’s not by power & might but by His grace. There’s no more stress in discharging my marital duties knowing that “One woman’s stress is another’s prayer point”. What a revelation! How do I say thank you to our great men of God, Pastor Cee & Pastor Kech!
God bless you Pastors!
The MoThaRs Collection seem to have been the reply to many a MoThaR because of the reception it got from inception till now. I believe it came at the best time too. For me as a mother and wife, it has settled a lot of those issues I usually felt was peculiar. I have come to learn that nothing is peculiar, we are all in it together and must stoop to learn from one another. I can mention some classes that were heaven sent to me but one class that has turned my life around was the Balancing Act. These… Read more »
These meetings have been great for me.
I would suggest that you get one on one counsel where you would be able to give more details. Until then, just pray for wisdom to be real and free in your marriage and yet not be provocative since you know your husband’s challenge. This is a delicate balance that one on one counsel will help you understand better.
What do you do about your Spouse’s insecurities that are affecting your marriage. Especially those he has admitted – do you just walk around them?, do you treat them like they are not there and do what you would anyway? How do you help him overcome them, especially if you do not see him working on them?
Every meeting produces an answer and a solution to EVERY mother’s/wife’s challenges in executing her role.
i especially thank God for the timeliness of these meetings in my married life and for the words of wisdom and grace that flow straight from his heart to mine through them. last sunday was just awesome.
thank you pastors for creating this forum.
Something brings it up and you ask one woman about orgasm and it is as if you have mentioned the unmentionable. Some do not honestly know what you are talking about. How does one teach other women the place of orgasm in their enjoyment of sex in marriage?
Awesome. That’s the word I would use to describe the message on ‘THE IN-LAWS PHENOMENON’. I was really blessed by the message, the questions asked and the various responses given to them. I am indeed blessed to be a part of this family. Thank you Pastors.
I’m eternally grateful being a part of this wonderful family.
I miscarried my first pregnancy because the PT result was negative while I was undergoing treatment for malaria and typhoid. I’m pregnant now and my husband just feels as if my taking one step or doing the usual routine work will make me start bleeding again. I’ve tried to encourage him that such fear is not of God and that I’m okay but he’s just adamant. His mantra is ‘you need rest’ and this makes me even feel sick rather than happy. Please, what do I do?
Dear Mrs. P, We would like to reassure you that the status of a victor was conferred upon you when you accepted Jesus as your Saviour and your Lord. You must know that as a child of God, God cares about you more than you can ever imagine. He has promised to be with you always and that includes at pregnancy. That is why you must walk by faith and not by sight (your feelings) at this time and always. It is a time you must rely on the Word of God and not necessarily on other people’s experiences, as… Read more »
DEAR ANONYMOUS, I HAD TO JUST DROP IN THIS COMMENT THOUGH I’M QUITE SHY COS ITS NEW TO ME. I MARRIED AS A VIRGIN SO KNEW NADA ABOUT WHAT TO EXPECT. AFTER OUR LAST MOTHARS COLLECTION, WHERE THE TOPIC OF ORGASM WAS DISCUSSED, I BEGAN TO LOOK FORWARD TO IT BUT IT NEVER CAME UNTIL 4 DAYS AGO. HOW DID IT HAPPEN? I DECIDED TO JUST LET MYSELF GO AND FLOW WITH MY HUSBAND. AS I SOUGHT WAYS TO GIVE HIM PLEASURE WHILE WE WERE AUDIBLY COMMUNICATING…..BEFORE I KNEW IT, HEAVEN CAME DOWN! SUCH PLEASURE!!! IT MAY NOT BE THE… Read more »
Pastor Charles often says that what we have in us shows up when situation come against us therefore be careful what you allow in. To this I can say the Family sessions have enriched me greatly such that certain situations in my life meet preparation. When I hear about certain situations individuals are going through I can’t help but to count my blessings as I appreciate my store house where am rooted. Am a victor and not a victim because of these meetings by His grace. Last year Pastor Nkechi took us through a series on sexuality in kids just… Read more »
Dear Pastors, I want to say that This forum has really blessed me and my family, Thank you so much. Please can you help me expatiate on the headings one has to consider in creating a family budget.
Thank you very much for this opportunity. The truth is that there is no one best budget that can fit every family. So what has been put together for you here is a guide to enable you fashion your unique family budget depending on the uniqueness of your home needs. Remember that items on the list have to be mutually derived and agreed upon by your spouse. Notice the budget shows the source of the budget income and the expenditure based on the income. It is important that you include all possible categories of expenditure. If a category is not… Read more »
I really bless God that I’m a part of this great functioning family. From Sistars and Suitors, a good foundation for building a home was set and further strengthened here in the Mothars collection. Delivery time for me was a sweet adventure as I had reported in the office that day before going to the hospital for routine check. The doctor said ‘madam, do you know you are in labour? You are already 4cm gone!!!! That’s how I was taken to the delivery room where in 4 hours time I put to bed (its my first baby – the next… Read more »
Yesterday’s joint meeting was a refreshing experience. I was thoroughly enriched.
I was recently going through my notes and came across the teaching in the MoThaRs collection of 27th November 2011, titled “What matters most to you?”. The options were;
1. Is it your looks?
2. Is it your children?
3. Is it your career?
4. Is it your friends?
5. Is it money?
6. Is it property?
What should matter most is our relationship with God. As that is the one thing that will guarantee you to have strength in every storm. (Psalm 27:4-5) The message really blessed me afresh. MoThaRs, lets go back to the lessons we have heard; they are still very relevant.
My husband has so many members of his family that depend on him, most times after he gives all of them money all we have left is my salary to spend. At times I try not to talk because they are his relatives but I always feel bad especially when he decides to borrow again to give them. We’re yet to clear some debt from our wedding and they still won’t stop asking. More than 70% of his salary goes to them (not the same person) and at times I have to give part of my salary when they keep… Read more »
Dear Lois, The frustration that may ensue from poorly managed finances, especially in a new family if not nipped in the bud is understood. If you and your husband are members of TCC, we would suggest that you talk with your husband in love about seeking counsel from the pastors; if you are not members of TCC, then seek counsel from your pastors. Suffice it to say that both of you need to learn the principles of family budgeting; that is, draw up a monthly family budget and stick with it. In that budget you can make provision of what… Read more »
What should a wife who has been sexually unfaithful to her husband do after repenting and desisting from it? Will God forgive me if each time I commit adultery I ask for forgiveness and still go back to it again?
If a woman has been sexually unfaithful to her husband she has to do certain things. Firstly and most importantly, taking it that the one who committed adultery is a believer, she has to confess it to God as a sin, and ask for His forgiveness. Adultery is a terrible sin, but there is no sin beyond the reach of the Father’s love, mercy and forgiveness. As 1 John 1:9 says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” The Father is faithful to forgive; but… Read more »
I have really been blessed by the life transforming teachings ministered during these meetings. So many aspects of my life has indeed witnessed improvement since I joined TCC. Indeed, God is HERE!
I have been the bread win of my family for 2 years now. My husband has been out of job and it's really not been easy for me. I am doing everything: school fees, rent, feeding. I just feel my husband is not trying enough to look for job, each time I talk to him all he tell me is that if I think he is happy with his situation and that he is trying his best. 3 weeks after I had our second baby we had a quarrel he left the house for 4 months he did not even… Read more »
The man is the provider of the family; he is the breadwinner. One can imagine what you have gone through taking on that role for the past 2 years. The woman is a helper to her husband and is expected to offer assistance if she works or has a career. Therefore it is not strange for a woman to bring money into the home. Challenges come to us all and in your husband’s case it has come as a loss of his job. In this situation, you are doing the proper thing in helping with the family responsibilities till when… Read more »
My husband spends a lot of time on the phone most times talking business or just catching up on gist with friends. It’s so much that some mornings before he even speaks to me he’s on the phone with someone or the other. This often also repeats at night when we both get home from work. I have asked him several times to cut down on unnecessary calls when he is home because I feel it’s encroaching on the time we spend talking with each other but he says I’m being too demanding? Rather than become a nag I’ve chosen… Read more »
Asika, thank you for your question and the sincerity you express in it. You shouldn’t let the matter lie. You should face it headlong. Both of you work and so you definitely need some time together. Moreover, a woman wants to know that her husband gives her attention and shows her affection. So, you are not being over-demanding. However, the way and manner you broach the subject matters a lot. Maybe you shouldn’t raise it with him when he has just finished speaking to someone on the phone because at that time you would be emotional and boiling with anger;… Read more »
Hello, I have a question about marriage and divorce. I walked out of my marriage 7 years ago due to spiritual battles I faced and I did not know better then. I did not know that I had the power and authority to wage spiritual battles. Now I feel God strongly leading me to go back to my husband, but he has refused to accept me, in fact he sent me a letter of divorce. Now I hear he is planning to remarry. Is it unchristian of me to pray against his marriage and stand for our marriage to be… Read more »
We don’t have enough space here to discuss the subject of marriage and divorce. Divorce should not be seen as a quick way out of any marital problem and many times, with cooperation of both parties and Counselling, divorce can be avoided. However, we know that divorce is also not the “unpardonable sin” and there are Scripturally valid situations that would give rise to divorce. You have not given us details concerning the situations that caused you to walk out of your marriage when you did. While there is nothing impossible with God, 7 years is not a short period… Read more »
Today was another outing for the family meeting. Auntie Mina was great and we were greatly refreshed, inspired, and positioned for better manifestation of God’s grace in our marraiges by our acts of Forgiveness. The talk highlighted the reason why Forgiveness is the key to a more fruitful life as individual and in the marraige relationship. Unforgiveness was unveiled like never before. Though heard it preached before it came fresh with power and freshness, tangible change is eminent. I am blessed beyond measure. Every outing is a blessing to my marraige because besides the talk questions span to other aspects… Read more »
Two Sisters grew up sharing everything they had without reservation. Both got married years apart and the story changed. They are now married to individuals who may not share this view of theirs or the usual let’s build our relationship without undue influence kept them seemingly apart. In their respective marriages everyone thought all was well not until one fell ill and was hospitalized in the last trimester of her second baby. She moved her 2 year old daughter into her Sister’s home for care. While in the hospital she opened up to discuss her pain and agony in her… Read more »
Dear Sister Anonymous, Thank you for sending in this question. This situation is quite painful but with the wisdom of God, this situation can be handled without casualties. Firstly, our concerns should be for the children the deceased sister left behind. No child born into the world has ever had a chance to choose the kind of family he/she was born into. Knowing this fact, if a child is born into a dysfunctional home as it were, it is not the fault of the child and if we have the opportunity to render any form of help to such a… Read more »
My question is…can u pray for a dead person to come back to life?
Our God reigns
I am a member of TCC my husband brought me to church years b4 we did our premarital counselling and all.Though had our wedding in my father’s church back in my state in 2010. The issues I need answer s to right now is that my husband that I’ve always believed had the fear of God is addicted to pornography and has taken it a step further by engaging in phone sex with some at least 2 ladies I know of. It happened when my phone went bad in December and I had to make use of his old phone.… Read more »