How was the name Boaz Brigade derived? It sounds like fun.
I like the Boaz Brigade
it’s like my favorite
Miss Independent Vs Miss Submissive: Can “Ladies” really be both?
Definitely ladies can be both “independent” and “submissive” as God abhors extremes of any sort. On either side of a proper road are ditches. A lady who thinks “submission” means she loses her “identity” completely is in one ditch, on the other hand, a lady who thinks “independence (or identity)” means she cannot “submit” to her husband, spiritual authority or the Word is in another ditch. As our minds are renewed with the Word, ladies will learn how to drive in the middle of the road and husbands will learn how to let them do so.
A couple decided to buy a property (Land, House, Car, etc.) The man uses a high percentage of his income to take care of basic and domestic things to enable them have enough savings for the property they intend to acquire. 85% came in from the lady, while 15% came in as a loan. The lady now proposes that the property should be written in her name, but she was turned down, while the man insists that it should be written in the family name.
On whose name should the property be written and why?
We think the husband should be concerned about the obvious lack of trust and insecurity exhibited by his wife. He should try to solve that problem and be less concerned about whether the property is in her name or not. Secondly a man taking care of basic and domestic things does so as HIS DUTY not as a favour to the family. A wife should be free to spend her money for the family (for it is her family and she is not a stranger) but like we’ve said earlier if she is doing so with reservations and preconditions then… Read more »
I have a daughter who acts like 3 boys in one (very physical and active I mean)
At age one plus, I started with talking, loving and praying but later observed that she only takes heed when I introduce the rod. I have started relying on the rod more often believing that this particular child needs to be corrected this way. This started at age two and I am uncomfortable.
At what age should the rod be introduced,should I go on this way or is there something I have not tried apart from, loving, talking, praying, blessing, decreeing and occassional spanking?
Hi Bode, The truth is that our children are a blessing and a reward from the Lord and it is expected of us to love and bring them up in the fear and nurture of the Lord. The Bible instructs us to bring them up in the way they should go. This means that there is a way that they should go which is the way of the Lord or the way of the Word of God; and they are not to be brought up in the way that we think they ought to go except if our thinking is… Read more »
Should a newly married wife still keep her old/past album or picture collections which she snapped with male colleagues while in school or elsewhere in the past?
What do you counsel a newly married wife on taking calls from male friends she knew in the past,especially in the presence of the husband? Is it okay for her to even think of making free night calls at all?
Dear Great, We would like to say that marriage is a coming together of two separate individuals. This means that the two lives merge into one without wiping out the personality of the other in any way. By this we mean that there should be nothing wrong if a spouse keeps his/her old album (and for the right reasons too) but should the other spouse have issues with it, then it should be handled in love and an agreement reached on what should be done with the old album. A lot also depends on the type of pictures in the… Read more »
i work with a company where i can take loans from company coperative, i bought my car through that means and two pieces of lands, i pay through my salary being slashed, now its like i am depending on that avenue so much, my wife supports me greatly but now i begin to see i am spending less on the things of God and myself. I have now decided to make up payments to things of God with my allowances but is it wrong taking loans to finance investments.
Oriaku, We cannot expressly say that taking loans is wrong to finance investments or that taking loans is a sin either. However, the Bible does say that the borrower is a servant to the lender – and that is the situation you seem to slowly have found yourself in. What is worse is when it starts affecting your commitments to God – tithes, offerings, gifts of love…..for then you are mortgaging your future and inviting poverty into your habitation. Where taking loans is concerned certain rules of thumb apply: MODERATION – don’t enter an excessive multiple borrowing cycle – every… Read more »
How much is too much… in lovemaking?
Ladi, the question is too vague and any answer we attempt to give will be out of context. We advise face to face Pastoral counsel or ask it during a live session of The Boaz Brigade where you can be asked follow up questions for clarification.
A couple with children, had to take up the responsibility of providing for two other children. What can the husband do to ensure that he is not paying too much attention on his own children (what he is already used to) e.g when shopping for them, the difference in the schools they attend, Holiday trips, the type of house chores they do etc.
Before taking up this responsibility, we hope that the cost was counted so that they don't start something they can't finish. If they have counted the cost, then the path of wisdom has to be followed. It also depends on what level of “responsibility” was taken up. We can look at two types: “Providing for and taking care of” the other two children is like giving a scholarship to someone who lives with you, versus “adopting” them which is becoming their parents and accepting them as your own children totally are two different things. Both cases are okay, a blessing… Read more »
When a woman starts keeping secrets from her husband like hiding her account details and whatever she does, but she wants to know everything the husband does, what would you advice?
A brother-in-law that lives with us is causing trouble between me and my wife. What should I do?
When I beat my child for wrong doing, my wife shouts at me but when she beats up the child she thinks it’s okay. What should I do?
When a woman starts keeping secrets from her husband like hiding her account details and whatever she does, but she wants to know everything the husband does, what would you advice? Two stones at the foundation of any successful marriage are trust and communication. Regrettably, those two vital elements seem to be missing in this marriage. The good news is that they can be built into your marriage with practice and patience. It has been said that “Trust is not demanded but earned.” This means people come to trust you because the way and manner you live make you earn… Read more »
How can I overcome premature ejaculation? I have lived with it for about 4 years of marriage. All that I have tried so far hasn’t worked yet. What can I do?
You mentioned that all you have tried so far hasn’t worked. We would like to find out if these treatments were prescriptions given to you by medical experts in this field. If they are not, then we would advice that you go for a medical check–up to know exactly what is going on. This will help you give direction to your faith. Having said that, please be reassured that with God no situation is impossible (Luke 1:37). The fact you have tried several treatments which the condition has defied does not mean that you cannot be healed of this condition.… Read more »
I have been blessed time without number reading through Q & A in this platform. Thank you for the good work. God will continue to use you. IJN
I’ve been going through a lot for a long while now. It has been from one health challenge to another. I have the faith that God in his infinite mercies can heal me. All im asking for is your prayers and scriptural references that will build my faith. I believe that God who raise the dead to life and creates something out of nothing, despite the deadness of my body will make me healthy again by his stripes. Amen
Dear Edan, The health challenge you are going through is no secret to God. Though no one may understand the severity of the case — whatever it is, rest assured that God does and He has provided healing for you through the redeeming sacrifice of His Son, Christ Jesus our Lord two thousand years ago (Isaiah 53:4-5), who on the cross bore every imaginable and unimaginable sickness and disease, and made healing and health available to everyone who accepts Him as Saviour and Lord. On the basis of this provision in redemption, you are healed. God sees you as someone… Read more »
Nice couples fellowship last sunday. Presentation by bro Emeka Ene is a blessing to me. Keep up the good work.
Dear Joseph, Concerning your question about a Christian\’s involvement in politics you should know that a Christian can be involved in whatsoever vocation he chooses to be involved as long as it is not sinful. A Christian going into politics must know for sure that God wants him there. This is the necessary backing he or she needs to succeed in the political arena. Also, like in all other walks of life, the Christian who believes he is called to be a politician should conduct himself or herself as an ambassador of Christ in every way. This entails being a… Read more »
With the context of politics in nigeria,is it right for a christian brother 2 involve he/herself in politics? Tanx.
Dear Joseph, Concerning your question about a Christian's involvement in politics you should know that a Christian can be involved in whatsoever vocation he chooses to be involved as long as it is not sinful. A Christian going into politics must know for sure that God wants him there. This is the necessary backing he or she needs to succeed in the political arena. Also, like in all other walks of life, the Christian who believes he is called to be a politician should conduct himself or herself as an ambassador of Christ in every way. This entails being a… Read more »
Beloved Boaz(es)and MoThaRs, our meeting of Sunday was packed with unusual revelation that not only blessed my wife and I as a couple but stirred up unusual strength to boldly talk about those little foxes that spoil the vine. The move of God in these meetings of ours will undoubtedly continue the positive revolution of building strong relationship between us couples that will in turn maximize the the power of resurrection in our families. God always speaks new revelation to us through the guest speakers and bro Emeka’s delivery style and testimonies are a focal point of contact to work… Read more »
Good morning Pastor, I want to honestly say thank you to you my Presiding Pastor(Mrs Nkechi Ene), Pastor Chuks and sister Oke for the great works the Lord has done to my family through you. It was almost a fact that my marriage with my wife Confidence was a forgotten issue based on what I considered as disrespect and disloyalty from my wife, but after weeks of marriage counseling by Sister Oke and Pastor Chuks (Even though we’ve been married for over 7years with children), I have come to realize that it is not all about what I think or… Read more »
I had a discussion with one of my Bosses few days back that got me thinking. He said he does not get too close to married women until he is certain they are in stable marriage relationship. I got curious and asked why. He confirmed that when women are in unstable relationship they seek attention from any other man who is ready to give that attention. He would not like to be entangled in the mess of fueling such need . Thank God for BOAZ Brigade forum which is equipping and empowering all that attend to be the very best… Read more »